1:1 Conversations Across Differences

What is a 1:1 Conversation?

A novel way for different types of people to connect personally and as citizens who are concerned for their country.  The process involves two structured 1-hour conversations between two people using an online platform.

If you’re thinking of participating in 1:1 conversations, just jump on into it! You’ll be glad for the experience!
–Deena Recker

I think of each conversation as a sturdy brick. A brick is a small thing, but thousands of bricks together–thousands of pairs of people talking to each other–can build a mighty bridge.
–Donna Murphy

The Four Types of Conversations

Red/Blue

Connecting one conservative and one liberal/progressive

Rural/Urban

Connecting one rural or small-town dweller and one person from an urban or suburban area

Black/White

Connecting one self-described Black person and one self-described White person

Conversation About Race

Connecting two people of different racial, ethnic or cultural groups

The Goals

✓ More understanding of the experiences, feelings, and beliefs of the other person

✓ Discovering any areas of commonality

✓ Ideas for how to bridge differences for the sake of our communities and our country

The Process

  • Emphasizes storytelling, listening, and learning rather than declaring or debating.
  • Both people share and learn. Neither is teaching the other or giving feedback about how to think or say things differently.
  • Participants take turns responding to a series of questions of increasing depth, with the other person listening without cross talk, and then sharing what they learned about the other’s views and experiences, and seeing if there is something in common.
  • Ends with both people coming up with action ideas to make a difference.

Choose a Conversation Type

Listen to the Audio Introduction

It's About Relationships

Please listen to Bill Doherty’s mandatory 2.5-minute audio introduction.

Read an optional 2-minute article by Donna N. Murphy

Please listen to Bill Doherty’s mandatory 2 1/2 minute audio introduction.

It's About Relationships

Read an optional 2-minute article by Donna N. Murphy

Sign Up Info

 If you are a Red seeking a Red/Blue conversation, a Black person seeking a Black/White conversation, a Rural or Small-Town dweller seeking a Rural/Urban conversation, or someone with a different racial, ethnic or cultural background (such as Hispanic, Cajun, Armenian or Jewish) willing to participate in a Conversation About Race, feel free to sign up by yourself now. 

If you are a Blue for a Red/Blue conversation, a White person for a Black/White conversation,  an Urban or Suburban dweller for a Rural/Urban conversation, or a White person who doesn’t identify with a different racial, ethnic or cultural background for a Conversation About Race, please try to find a partner on the other side from among your acquaintances or others. Summoning the courage to reach out to someone different than you to invite to engage in this conversation is part of the Braver Angels journey. When you sign up, enter your partner’s name and email address where requested, and choose the specific 1:1 conversation you two have agreed upon (this helps us keep track of how many conversations are occurring). If you cannot find a partner, you can sign up anyway and we will  work to find a partner for you, but it may take several weeks. 

On the sign-up form, please rank in order the 1:1 conversations you are willing to engage in if we can’t give you your first choice. Do not rank a conversation if you do not wish to engage in it. We happen to think that all Braver Angels 1:1 conversations are worthwhile!

If you learned about us through the USA Today Network Ohio “Healing Ohio” initiative, please use “OH” for the Group Code.

Please note: We do not vet participants. We assume that those who sign up for these conversations do so in good faith. In the rare instance that someone we pair you with behaves in an utterly inappropriate manner, please let us know at [email protected] so that we do not pair them with anyone else

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